Painful sex is more common than you think. If you experience pain during sex, you are not alone. Statistics say that about 30% of women reported pain during their last sexual intercourse. Pain during sex outlives just the moment, the experience beyond that moment can lead to other issues in the future. Some of which include lower sex drive, fear of sex and the likes.
If you experience painful sex, it is not to say something is wrong with you. Pain is just your body’s way saying something is wrong. So, you need to take a step back and figure out what might be wrong, so you can enjoy a better and healthier sex life.
Some people hear their partners say this often: “It is a mind thing. Just get it out of your mind and you won’t really feel it.” A good number of women have come to believe that. But that is mostly false.
- Don’t rush it! It is proven fact that women are mostly slower aroused than men are. Spending time on foreplay can help get your body and mind conditioned for the process. This can help cut out the pain.
- Even after foreplay and you feel you are ready, you still might not be slippery enough. This is a major cause of pain during penetration. Be sure to have a tube of lube nearby just in case. It makes the journey a lot smoother.
- Problem of genital fit is also a major issue! That is, when he is “too big” and you are “too tight” down there. Penetration becomes a cry for help instead of the pleasurable act it is meant to be. Lubricants can come in handy here. In some other cases, you might have to explore different sex positions to determine the one that’s best for you both.
- Prepare before hand. Especially for women. Actually, it works both ways for men and women. A stressed body doesn’t do so well in responding in bed. Take some things off your plate and ensure you are relaxed and not tense.
- Another cause of pain is genital infections. Some “down there” infections make sex uncomfortable and painful. If you notice this, do well to go to your doctor for tests and treatment in the case of any. Skin conditions or irritation of the genitals due to whatever cause can also be a factor causing pain. Feel free to discuss this issues with your partner and your doctor.
- It is just alright to tell your partner how you feel. It is okay to let him/her know what you’d like to change. Don’t keep quiet about it or make assumptions.
- Finally, it is impossible to rule out psychological, emotional factors. History of abuse, depression, anxiety are top on the list. The fear of initial pain makes it impossible for the person to relax and this can lead to even more pain.
Statistics say that about 30% of women reported pain during their last sexual intercourse.
I know the societal view against women in this regard, but this is 2017 and beyond society, your body is very important. Also, if your partner is the one experiencing painful sex, your support would go a long way.
Do not hesitate to see your doctor if needs arises. In this part of the world, people don’t freely discuss sexual problems with their doctors. If you feel uncomfortable about it, going would your partner to see the doctor can make a difference. In any case, painful sex should not be ignored or overlooked.