Signs That The Woman You Love is Suffering from Depression.

Chuka and Toyosi have been in love since senior high school. It is a wonder to many how they still keep together. This year, after about four years of being apart (college in different countries), they finally got to see. Well, let’s just say the relationship is now a short distance one. Everybody is waiting for the wedding date to be released (myself inclusive). Only that, Chuka is no longer sure he would want to go on even though he proposed to her some three months ago, immediately he got back into the country.

“She has changed a lot…” He complained to the his best friend, Dozie. Truly and honestly, Toyosi has changed a lot in the past few months. She is always moody and sad. She used to be an avid football fan. These days, she doesn’t even know who is playing and where. Initially, it seemed like one of those days. Maybe PMS or one of those normal low days people face. But it never went away, at least until recently.

Dozie advised Chuka to encourage Toyosi to see a physician. He suspected depression. She had lost her immediate younger sister and well, best friend some six months ago. And to be candid, she had been strong… until when she broke down and totally. After lots of persuasion, Toyosi finally agreed to see a doctor. Lo and behold, Dozie’s suspicion were confirmed. She was suffering from a major case of depression. The process is slow but she is getting better. The wedding is fixed for December and I just can’t wait!

I am personally happy Chuka didn’t give up on Toyosi, because if he did I would have lost the opportunity and honor of being my sister’s chief bridesmaid later this year.


Sadly, Many people’s story don’t end this way. A lot of people give up when their women begin to show symptoms of depression. Most times, they have no idea it is a condition she is suffering from. A lot think it is an attitude problem, some others just simply don’t know what to make of it. But then, that’s why is here, right?

It is a hard thing when a loved one is battling with depression. It is worse especially if you don’t even know. Statistics say women are twice likely to be depressed than men. That means that a lot of the signs we attribute to pre-menstrual syndrome (PMS) or discard as attitude might be depression cases. It might not be that she is no longer interested in you, she might just be suffering from depression.

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A lot of times, depression masquerades as so many other things. It is therefore important that we understand and acquaint ourselves with the signs to watch out for. Then we can be of help and early too. Depression is painful for everyone involved, and more especially for the one who is suffering from it.


Here are signs of depression you need to watch out for: 
  • Loss of interest in activities she normally delights in.
  • A bleak outlook with no particular reason.
  • Feelings of guilt, hopelessness and worthlessness.
  • Appetite changes and consequent weight loss or gain.
  • Insomnia or oversleeping
  • Anger/Irritability/Overly sensitive to issues.
  • Fatigue and loss of energy.
  • Unexplained body pains.
  • Careless Indulgence
  • Inability to focus or concentrate
  • Unusual negativity.

If you have noticed any of these signs that won’t go away after about a week, it is advisable to see a doctor. Even if it is not depression, you would have made sure it is not and you most likely would have gotten a solution. Ignoring these signs might worsen the case.

PS: I am still very excited about the wedding. My first time as a bridesmaid, I can’t keep calm!


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